Mr Ruby Slippers has decided that his ring is too big. He's spent the last thirty-two days with his left-hand fingers bent like a misshapen claw, in case it falls off. I heroically resisted the urge to say "I told you so", because I knew it was too big when he first had his finger sized before ordering it. But hey, it's his finger, he should know, right? Wrong. So now we have a tungsten ring one to two sizes too large that can't, of course, be resized. The only option?
Buy a new ring.
Mr Slippers, surprisingly, is having more trouble with this idea than I am. Why? Because then it won't be the ring he married me in, the ring that I put on his finger. I don't know why that doesn't bother me more. Really, it will look the same, it will still MEAN the same, and it's just a symbol, right? If you change the symbol for an identical symbol it still means the same thing. Actually, the thing that bothers me most is having to pay for a new ring. Because one thing you have to know about me is that I love saving and I hate waste. I get this from my mother, who, if a recipe calls for fresh lemonjuice, will grate the rind off the lemon first and freeze it in case she needs it to make something else one day. I love my mom.
Anyway, my thrifty side was - briefly - thrilled when the jewellery store offered to take Mr Slippers' ring back as a deposit towards the new one. Less money wasted, whoohoo! Except.
Except. That means they're going to resell it, and someone else will have Mr RS's ring. The ring that he married me in, the ring that I lovingly (and slowly, mindful of photographs) slid onto his finger in the chapel in front of sixty-something of our closest friends and family will belong to someone else. Someone else will walk around with our ring on his finger.
Now THAT bothers me.
The only thing to do, I guess, is to buy the new, smaller ring and keep them both. As Mr RS puts it: "One for hot days and one for cold." :-)
How do you guys feel about this? Could you live with your husband's wedding ring belonging to someone else?
4 weeks ago
i'm not sure how i feel about this. It is a hard thought when you think about it being on someone elses hand, for sure- but is it easier to handle if you think about the romance the two new ring holders share? If you knew their story? If you related to them in some way?
ReplyDeletewould that make it more or less bearable?
The ring I had made for That Husband (for like $10) doesn't fit him and so he will never wear it. Now he is wearing a $20 band he bought off of ebay. For me, it isn't the piece of metal that matters, it's the fact that he wants to wear it and the sentiment behind it.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you!! It's too bad that Mr. Ruby Slippers can't wear the ring that you gave him at your wedding, but if it doesn't fit him, it's just not worth it. Don't give it back to the store though, that's my thought. I would hate the thought of someone else wearing something that important. Save it as a token of the day you became husband and wife!
ReplyDeleteI think it's nice that the next couple will be able to find an affordable ring that already has good luck on it! Maybe the next people will be able to feel the good energy! :)
ReplyDeleteJenna: I absolutely agree, which is why I don't mind that Mr RS doesn't wear his "actual" wedding ring.
ReplyDeleteMiss Shugarman & Nala: You make a good case for letting the unknown "other" couple be happy in Mr RS's ring, but I doubt they'd ever know - I'm pretty sure the shop would clean it up and sell it off as any other ring, to be honest. But whether they know or not, I'm with Jest still - even if Mr Slippers never wears it again, I still don't want someone else wearing it.
Miss Shugarman - Actually, if I could choose, I wouldn't want to know anything about the new couple, if we did choose that route. I think it would make it harder. What if they were awful?