I can't be the only one who feels a bit confused by this! As far as I always knew, the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses (or, at least, whoever is paying for the wedding does!) and it's up to the bride if she wants to pay for their hair and make-up as well. Now, planning my own wedding, all the info out there tells me that the girls have to pay for ALL their own stuff!That seems a bit unfair, surely?It's your wedding, why should your friends/sisters/cousins/former roommate have to fork out hundreds or thousands of rands for stuff they'll probably never use again? It just seems a bit...stingy.
In the US, it seems to be completely normal and accepted to let the bridesmaids pay their own way. All the etiquette articles and books and magazines say this. But I'm paying for my two girls. My sister paid for my dress when I was bridesmaid at her wedding; I think she'd be pretty miffed if I didn't do the same! Anyway, it just feels right. What do you think? What did you/are you going to do?
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